luciazephyr | (no subject)

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Would it be too much to ask for Mum to stop making jokes about how I'm "gonna make some man very happy someday"? I know it's meant to be funny, but it's hard to keep faking that smile.

-Luce

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your mom's pushing the marriage NOW button too? DX
I know your pain...I'm here

How about throwing back, "Not half as happy as I'll make some woman!"

Or is that too strong?

Well... I just realized I was gay in the last year. It took a really long time to figure it out, but now that I did, I'm very happy. But I don't want to tell Mum until I'm older because I believe she'll think it's just me acting out (she thought the same thing about my atheism). I really don't want to deal with that. So, ya know. ;shrugs: It's currently a no-win situation.

Understood.

I have a gay 19-year-old adopted LJ son in the Philippines going thru some of the same garbage, but his parents are both religious AND insane.

My poor kids. *pat pat*

:(

I'm out to my parents (and they were good about not saying this sort of thing even before), but I get this everytime we have a gathering with the extended family. At length. And then I smile politely and hope no one notices how pissed off I actually am.

I know! And it really should not piss me off so much because it's someone who doesn't know, and yet the assumption does.

It should piss you off. Gay or straight, people should remember that the Heteronormal Happily Ever After isn't everybody's cup of tea. It pissed me off even before I figured out I liked girls.

:nods: Even before I realized it, I knew the last thing I wanted was to get married. I mean, I've always had a deep aversion to the idea.

:sighs: In a couple of years, I'll tell her. Right now I'll get the "but you've never even tried dating guys" speech, just like I got the "but you haven't tried going to church" speech when I told her I was an atheist.

I managed to actually avoid having the Coming Out talk with my parents-- I joined the GSA, started buying rainbow paraphernalia, and figured they were okay with it after they recommended I watch Victor/Victoria with them. My mum's comments were somewhere along the lines of "whatever, just so long as you're happy." ♥

Unfortunately I doubt that would work, given your situation. *sigh* I'm around a lot if you want to talk about it. I'd like to help if I can, even if it's just lending a sympathetic ear.

Hee. Everything working out well is always inspiring to hear.

I appreciate it. It's nice to know I have people who've been there too.

I'm straight and I have issues whenever someone tells me that. Mothers, I tell you.

Oh yep, the marriage button is always fun (I tend to get the "but bisexuality doesn't exist" from relatives, though not my parents). Just the pressure to get a partner/get married is uncomfortable.

But no win situations, they suck (but on a random note - there was an article about Keith Olbermann and Bill O'Reilly in the newspaper I read. He was surrounded by baseball cards and all).

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