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[luciazephyr]

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Would it be too much to ask for Mum to stop making jokes about how I'm "gonna make some man very happy someday"? I know it's meant to be funny, but it's hard to keep faking that smile.

-Luce

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[writer-atdusk.livejournal.com]

your mom's pushing the marriage NOW button too? DX
I know your pain...I'm here

[eh-notsomuch.livejournal.com]

How about throwing back, "Not half as happy as I'll make some woman!"

Or is that too strong?

[lucia-tanaka.livejournal.com]

Well... I just realized I was gay in the last year. It took a really long time to figure it out, but now that I did, I'm very happy. But I don't want to tell Mum until I'm older because I believe she'll think it's just me acting out (she thought the same thing about my atheism). I really don't want to deal with that. So, ya know. ;shrugs: It's currently a no-win situation.

[eh-notsomuch.livejournal.com]

Understood.

I have a gay 19-year-old adopted LJ son in the Philippines going thru some of the same garbage, but his parents are both religious AND insane.

My poor kids. *pat pat*

[polaris-starz.livejournal.com]

:(

I'm out to my parents (and they were good about not saying this sort of thing even before), but I get this everytime we have a gathering with the extended family. At length. And then I smile politely and hope no one notices how pissed off I actually am.

[lucia-tanaka.livejournal.com]

I know! And it really should not piss me off so much because it's someone who doesn't know, and yet the assumption does.

[polaris-starz.livejournal.com]

It should piss you off. Gay or straight, people should remember that the Heteronormal Happily Ever After isn't everybody's cup of tea. It pissed me off even before I figured out I liked girls.

[lucia-tanaka.livejournal.com]

:nods: Even before I realized it, I knew the last thing I wanted was to get married. I mean, I've always had a deep aversion to the idea.

:sighs: In a couple of years, I'll tell her. Right now I'll get the "but you've never even tried dating guys" speech, just like I got the "but you haven't tried going to church" speech when I told her I was an atheist.

[polaris-starz.livejournal.com]

I managed to actually avoid having the Coming Out talk with my parents-- I joined the GSA, started buying rainbow paraphernalia, and figured they were okay with it after they recommended I watch Victor/Victoria with them. My mum's comments were somewhere along the lines of "whatever, just so long as you're happy." ♥

Unfortunately I doubt that would work, given your situation. *sigh* I'm around a lot if you want to talk about it. I'd like to help if I can, even if it's just lending a sympathetic ear.

[lucia-tanaka.livejournal.com]

Hee. Everything working out well is always inspiring to hear.

I appreciate it. It's nice to know I have people who've been there too.

[lembeau.livejournal.com]

I'm straight and I have issues whenever someone tells me that. Mothers, I tell you.

[melliyna.livejournal.com]

Oh yep, the marriage button is always fun (I tend to get the "but bisexuality doesn't exist" from relatives, though not my parents). Just the pressure to get a partner/get married is uncomfortable.

But no win situations, they suck (but on a random note - there was an article about Keith Olbermann and Bill O'Reilly in the newspaper I read. He was surrounded by baseball cards and all).